Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough (Hardcover)
Authors Lori Gottlieb
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Product DescriptionYou have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven't found The One just yet. Surely he'll come along, right?
But what if he doesn't? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn't realize it?
Suddenly finding herself forty and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic: Maybe she and single women everywhere, needed to stop chasing the elusive Prince Charming and instead go for Mr. Good Enough.
Looking at her friends' happy marriages to good enough guys who happen to be excellent husbands and fathers, Gottlieb declared it time to reevaluate what we really need in a partner. Her ideas created a firestorm of controversy from outlets like the Today show to The Washington Post, which wrote, "Given the perennial shortage of perfect men, Gottlieb's probably got a point," to Newsweek and NPR, which declared, "Lori Gottlieb didn't want to take her mother's advice to be less picky, but now that she's turned forty, she wonders if her mother is right." Women all over the world were talking. But while many people agreed that they should have more realistic expectations, what did that actually mean out in the real world, where Gottlieb and women like her were inexorably drawn to their "type"?
That's where Marry Him comes in.
By looking at everything from culture to biology, in Marry Him Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face--how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate. Here Gottlieb shares her own journey in the quest for romantic fulfillment, and in the process gets wise guidance and surprising insights from marital researchers, matchmakers, dating coaches, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, couples therapists, divorce lawyers, and clergy--as well as single and married men and women, ranging in age from their twenties to their sixties.
Marry Him is an eye-opening, often funny, sometimes painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of the modern dating landscape, and ultimately, a provocative wake- up call about getting real about Mr. Right.
Product Details# Hardcover: 336 pages
# Publisher: Dutton Adult (February 4, 2010)
# Language: English
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it's been one of the most interesting books on relationships and dating I've ever read. And I read a lot of these books! The interviews on TV don't do this book justice, because they skim the surface and miss the bigger point. It is brilliantly written. What a funny, fine, and insightful voice she has.
And here it is: A decent looking and pleasant enough woman in her 20s who is looking for a guy has the pick of the crop. If she's willing to say yes to dating, there are men who will fawn all over her, and many men will propose marriage. Even up to the mid 30s, there are many men eager to take it to the next level. But women are so used to being able to pick and choose, that they keep noticing the things that are wrong in guys, and expect that with each trade in they'll upgrade. That works, but only for a while. At a certain age, it stops working, but most women don't notice the change in the "game", and keep waiting--saying "I didn't pass up all those other guys just to settle now." They forget that the guys who used to be gaga over them were willing to forgive _their_ faults. By the time they enter their fourth decade, women ask: Why aren't there any "good guys" left? Because the women who were smart enough to focus on what they have in a particular man (rather than wait for the complete package) didn't let him go. They married him!
Any woman at any age would benefit from reading this book, but it is a must read for any woman who is between the ages of 24 and 34.
